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Lena Dunham: Sexual Predator Or Not?

Michelle Tiu |
November 3, 2014 | 1:47 p.m. PST

Entertainment Producer

Lena Dunham probably regrets writing "Not That Kind of Girl" now. (@TheDebrief / Twitter)
Lena Dunham probably regrets writing "Not That Kind of Girl" now. (@TheDebrief / Twitter)
Since the release of her new memoir "Not That Kind of Girl: A Young Woman Tells You What She's 'Learned'," actress-turned-author Lena Dunham has found herself at the center of growing controversy.

The scandal in question?

Well, several conservative media outlets have accused Dunham of admitting to sexually abusing her younger sister Grace as a child, citing several passages within the book in which the "Girls" actress describes sexually experimenting with her sister.

One of the passages in question:

"One day, as I sat in our driveway in Long Island playing with blocks and buckets, my curiosity got the best of me. Grace was sitting up, babbling and smiling, and I leaned down between her legs and carefully spread open her vagina. She didn't resist and when I saw what was inside I shrieked."

"My mother came running. 'Mama, Mama! Grace has something in there!'"

"My mother didn't bother asking why I had opened Grace's vagina. This was within the spectrum of things I did. She just [got] on her knees and looked for herself. It quickly became apparent that Grace had stuffed six or seven pebbles in there. My mother removed them patiently while Grace cackled, thrilled that her prank had been a success."

Following the slew of articles accusing her of molesting her sister, Dunham went on a self-described "rage spiral" over the weekend, calling the allegations "really f--king upsetting and disgusting."

But are those writers wrong?

My answer is no, they're not.

Yes, we can talk about how the allegations specifically emerged from the conservative side of the media, but the fact still remains that they're not making this stuff up. These passages do exist in the book (as can be seen if you search for it on Twitter) and they're troublesome.

Dunham herself even makes an inappropriate joke regarding her behavior with her sister within the pages of "Not That Kind of Girl":

"As she grew, I took to bribing her for her time and affection: one dollar in quarters if I could do her makeup like a 'motorcycle chick.' Three pieces of candy if I could kiss her on the lips for five seconds. Whatever she wanted to watch on TV if she would just 'relax on me.' Basically, anything a sexual predator might do to woo a small suburban girl I was trying to be. Maybe, I thought, she would be more willing to accept kisses if I wore the face mask my grandmother had for when she did her dialysis. (The answer was no.) What I really wanted, beyond affection, was to feel that she needed me, that she was helpless without her big sister leading her through the world. I took a perverse pleasure in delivering bad news to her - the death of our grandfather, a fire across the street - hoping that her fear would drive her into my arms, would make her trust me."

Dunham can try and justify her actions all she wants and we can't pretend to know what went on inside her head - or her sister's head, for that matter - at the time, but she can't deny that - from the outside - these passages look really bad... To put it mildly.

My question is why didn't some editor, publisher, or anyone else who read the book while it was still in the works stop Dunham and say, "Whoa, this looks really sketchy. Can you take it out?" or at the very least ask her to re-word the passages?

I'm not that familiar with Lena Dunham's particular brand of humor, so I can't speak as to whether she is usually this... Crass. But surely - if the experiences really were as "innocent" as she claims - there could've been a better way of describing these events?

(I highly doubt it though.)

She bribed her sister with certain "prizes" or "treats" to get what she wanted, she attempted to condition her sister into becoming dependent on her... Dunham writes about these experiences like a sexual predator might, which - jokingly or not - she describes herself as.

How can she possibly be mad at the media for "twisting her words" if she herself uses the phrase "sexual predator" within her book to describe her actions?

Check out what other people are saying about the Lena Dunham situation on Twitter. (Spoiler: everyone's pretty much on the same boat for this one)

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