2013 was the year of the selfie, the year of Miley and another year of Queen Beyonce. But was it the year you finally kept your New Year’s resolutions? There's nothing wrong with making resolutions for the new year, but maybe this year, make one of your resolutions to keep your New Year’s resolutions. This can be a great way to keep yourself on track as long as your resolutions are the right type of resolutions- realistic and positive. Here are some New Year’s resolutions I recommend NOT making in 2014...

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Get Revenge

Maybe someone hurt you or wronged you this year, but don't resolve to get even. It's unhealthy to carry negativity on your shoulders. Be the bigger person and remember that karma could affect both you and the person you believe deserves retribution. Things will work out the way they’re supposed to without you making a concentrated effort to seek revenge.

Lose Weight…

...If it’s by a measure that is unhealthy, or makes you uncomfortable or unhappy. Don’t beat yourself up if you can’t lose five pounds in a week or if you can't work out every single day. Keep healthy in the way that makes you feel good; don’t kill yourself for those last few pounds. It’s better to vow to choose a more realistic, appropriate healthy lifestyle for you. If you're concerned about your eating habits or relationship with food, do yourself the best favor and set up an appointment with a nutritionist.

Stop Eating (insert specific food here)

So what if pizza is not the healthiest choice for dinner? If you like it, let yourself splurge every once in a while. Being healthy is all about moderation. If you eat junk food for lunch then have a healthier dinner. If you enjoy something then there's no need to cut it out of your life. So eat your favorite candy bar, but then go on a hike later on. Don't stress about food, it's one of life's greatest pleasures.

Change Someone Else

Whether it’s your significant other, your sibling or colleague at work, don’t try to change them. The only person you can change is yourself. Often our hopes to change people in our loves reflects a personal void we're feeling. Perhaps you need to make a change in your own life- taking up a new hobby or finding a new friend group are excellent places to start. In terms of romantic relationships, changing someone’s hair, clothes or any form of their appearance is not going to change who they are as a person. If you have issues with a person see what you can do to make the situation better from your end, and work on that. 

Find Love

This does not exclusively apply to romantic scenarios- sometimes we're seeking love so desperately we fail to appreciate the world immediately around us. Love finds you when you least expect it. When you go out looking for love you become self-conscious and don’t allow your true self to shine through. The moment you forget the anxiety that comes with looking for love is often the moment when your preoccupations are put aside and you can exude your best self. 

Quit a Habit Cold Turkey

There’s nothing wrong with wanting to kick a bad habit. But it's a mistake to set unrealistic expectations about how and when you’re going to achieve your goal. If it’s a habit you’ve had for a significant amount of time, then a few weeks may not be sufficient time to change your ways. Make a sensible timeline for yourself and don’t beat yourself up if it takes a little bit longer. As long as you put in the effort and dedication you’ll be rid of the habit eventually. Positivity is key.

Anything You Know You Won’t Succeed At

Make resolutions to make yourself better, according to your goals for how to become your best self. So don’t set yourself up to fail with resolutions that you know you won’t keep. Don’t say you’ll climb a mountain if you know you won’t. Don't pledge to fit into a size four if you know it's entirely improbable. Your resolutions can be private; they don’t need to be written to impress anyone. Make resolutions that you can review in a year and be proud of yourself for accomplishing. So get started, and happy new year!

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