What do you do if your partner isn’t good in bed? Is it an instant deal breaker? Well, it doesn’t need to be. If you stick with it, you could turn them into your ultimate sex god. When you’re first hooking up with someone it may be a little different than once you’re actually in a relationship. For starters, you have much less motivation not to just cut your losses, but what if there was a way to fix the bad sex and turn it into something great? If the person is worth it, it could turn into the best sex you’ve had.

The big question is obviously, how? First of all, this guy or girl better be worth it, so if you are just beginning to hook up, determine if it could go anywhere. But if it could, or if it already is somewhere, then here’s what to do. Don’t blatantly tell them you’re not enjoying the sex because that will only cause problems. In fact, don’t actually say anything at all. Wait until you’re in the act of hooking up and guide them, physically, on what to do. This may seem aggressive, but more often than not, your partner will enjoy you taking control. 

For example, if the problem is with the guy and he’s going too fast or being too aggressive when you want him to be slow and more romantic, grab his body and physically slow him down. You could even whisper something like “I like it when you go slow”. Lots of people like dirty talk. 

An issue many women face, at least in their earlier sexual days, is not being able to orgasm. Usually, this will come with more experience but there's no reason you can’t speed the process along. The best way to get an orgasm is again, to take control. The easiest way is by being on top so you can grind on your partner while having sex. This will stimulate all areas best. If this still doesn’t do the trick, though, grab their hand and place it exactly where you want it. Or you could even do it yourself. Guys generally love when you please yourself in front of them.

If the problem is with the girl and she just lies there for example, it’s probably because she doesn’t know what to do. In fact, most people who aren’t very good at sex are usually bad because they’ve never been told differently. By guiding them, it will not only be beneficial to you, but also them. But with girls, it’s often because they’re afraid of doing the wrong thing. In this case, dirty talk can be a great tool as well. When you’re already hooking up, right before you actually start having sex, you could lightly suggest a new position. Try something simple, but something that still allows her to take a bit more action. For starters, you could try just putting her on top. This is probably the easiest position that still allows her to be a bit livelier. 

Everyone has his or her preferences that creates their perfect idea of sex. What can make bad sex into such great sex is this: You can essentially fine tune your partner to your exact preferences and “train” them to like exactly what you like. When your partner isn’t very good, they’re kind of like a blank slate ready to be molded into your perfect sexual companion.