How does a simple kiss or meaningless sex turn into a relationship? And should it even? A relationship seems kind of unnecessary when hooking up is just that without any emotions and the possibility of getting hurt. Hooking up is the obvious, simpler route. 

Relationships take time, something that I know I for one don’t have much of at the moment. You need to make time to see the other person and to talk to them. Relationships can also cause pain, which isn't something anyone would voluntarily put themselves through or anyone they care about. If it doesn't work out, a broken heart is incredibly difficult to overcome. Not to mention if the relationship isn't healthy, the problems it can create are endless. Simple, meaningless hooking up on the other hand gives you all the sexual pleasure of a relationship without the possible painful consequences. There's no time commitment, and all participants are fully aware of the terms surrounding their “dates”. 

Relationships still do have tons of plus sides. When they're good, the security you get is unreal. There's always someone to listen to you, and provide comfort whenever you need it. You know you always have someone to go home to at night, whether just to lie next to or have as much sex with as you'd like. 

Another obvious great thing about relationships: the sex. One of the few downsides of hooking up is that sex isn't always guaranteed. You could go months without any, which is not at all desirable. With a relationship, the amount and type of sex is unlimited. You get so comfortable with your partner you feel free to suggest any idea. Relationships are an outlet for even the greatest of sexual fantasies. Also, the closeness you feel with a boyfriend or girlfriend makes the sex that much more passionate, more meaningful, and actually better. 

Hooking up, though, is still a good option when you're pressed for time because you can still at least get some, even if not a lot, of sex in your life. In busy phases of life, it's already difficult to find time for your friends. You definitely don't want to take time away from these more definite relationships. Plus, you don't want to be the "lame" friend who only makes time for their boy/girlfriend. 

Hooking up is the easiest solution. No time will be taken away from friends and you still (hopefully) get sex. It's a win-win. Relationships are possible, just hard. If you can manage a relationship and friendships, on top of daily life, then do it. Relationships are great and the benefits are better than just plain hooking up. But if not, you can still have great sex. As far as being comfortable enough to have better sex and to fulfill your greatest fantasies, find yourself a freak and you can still do just that.

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