You will not find him in a bar. Who, you ask? Mr. Right. Maybe Mr. Right-Now, but if you're serious and seriously looking for someone of quality, I'm sorry, but you just wont find him in a bar. Wait, forgive me -- I'm not sorry.  

Oh, P.S. boys, you will not find Ms. Right, either. Stop looking because that girl in the corner with the smudged mascara isn't her. (Just looking out for you.)

A quote from dearoldlove.com: Ungive Up - "I'd just about give up by the time I met you."

Singles often forget the most important ingredient for building a healthy relationship: him or herself. If you focus on bettering yourself, then you will attract people who are of quality - a higher caliber than that of the usual bar-goer.  It doesn't matter how many dates you get or go on or how many numbers get shoved at you that night at the bar, but it does matter how you feel about yourself.  Go for a run, work out, take a yoga class - no, not because you need to lose weight or be in super amazing shape in order to snag your future Miss or Mister, but because you do need to be happy with yourself.  

Take time to educate yourself about the world around you. I'm not saying read the newspaper cover to cover or every news blog that gets sent your way, but educate yourself about the things that matter to you. Like to paint? Take a trip to the Getty. Can't find someone to go with you? Go alone. Be comfortable going to brunch by yourself. Take delight in it. Enjoy a beach stroll or a stroll down Melrose. Go to a dog park...but only if you own a dog. Become a well-developed magnet - you will attract others if you do things you like and increase the quality of your own life. I took a walk down the Santa Monica Promenade the other day (by myself, by the way) and reveled in the talent that all of the street performers had to share. I took pictures of some of the musicians - I always feel weird taking pictures of random things, but I'm so glad I took the picture.

And here's a tip: Don't stop doing these things once you are in a relationship. Your relationship will thrive and so will you if you continue to cultivate all that you are and can be. I realize it sounds simple, maybe a tad scary or a little cliché, but maybe just trust me. Try it, you might like it or yourself even a little bit more.  

One last thing: If you do go for a work out to increase the you-factor, it isn't necessary to wear make up. Ok, maybe a little foundation.